It takes time to digest the fact that your pet has left. In addition to sadness, you may also have many regrets.

You have your own career and life, and you couldn’t spend more time with it. You would wish you had treated it better; or, you guess, if you make other medical decisions, will it die later? Wouldn't it be less painful? You can't turn back time, but you are trying to save something in this way.

In fact, you have done well enough. You think so just because you are too reluctant to let go.

It is recommended to tell the people around you about its departure. Nearby pet shops, frequently visited pet hospitals, WeChat groups where pets are posted, and pet crematories, you will find that friends can understand the sadness of losing it and will comfort you.

Chatting with them can make the stage of digesting the facts less difficult.

Say goodbye to it

Its departure leaves a huge hole in your heart, as if everything about it has disappeared. All the appliances and scenes at home and outside also remind you of its past.

So, you need to say goodbye to it officially. This could be saying goodbye to the body during cremation or burial, speaking to its photo, or writing a letter to it. You need this ritual to give yourself permission to let go.

Then, you can sort out its things, leave a few souvenirs, and pack the rest away or give them away.

Organizing memories

Memories are beneficial. Memories help you remember the days you spent together and the meaning of life.

Its form is annihilated, but the memory of it remains in your heart. Death doesn't take everything away, it's a new phase, a new way of living.

Set aside a period of time without being disturbed: either reflect quietly by yourself; or chat with friends who have had similar experiences; or even invite everyone to hold an informal small memorial service. Let me tell you about sadness and reluctance, and the intimacy and joy it has brought;

▷ When you brought your dog home for the first time, how did it react to its new environment?

▷ How does it behave after getting familiar with it?

▷ Is it cute or cool?

▷ How does it welcome you home?

▷ How does it express dissatisfaction?

▷ How does it want to eat?

▷ Will it be greedy for your food?

▷ Where does it sleep and what position does it sleep in?

▷ How does it interact with family members and outsiders?

▷ Who is his favorite family member and his favorite animal companion?

▷ What changes have occurred in your life during the years of being with it?

▷ What did it look like when you first saw it, and what did it look like to you?

▷ After it left, did your wish come true?

▷ What kind of years has it witnessed for you?

Use this series of questions to organize your memories and help you realize that death is not the end of everything.

Find out the meaning of its life

Somehow, your lives are closely linked together.

You are a witness to its life, and it must also be a witness to a certain period of your life. Such a friend and family member deserves time to say goodbye.

It is its companionship that makes your life and its life more meaningful

Each one played an important role in someone's life.

A friend was depressed, so everyone pooled their money and bought him a Labrador as a gift. A year later, the dying depressed patient became a lively model dog dad. After being frustrated, a child ate all the cookies in his collection and planned to jump off the building. A big orange cat suddenly came over and licked his entire face up and down. He was licked back to life and didn't want to die.

More people are exhausted from life. Only when they return home and pick up their pets can they feel the softness and warmth of life.

Do you believe that "every life has its own specific mission"? Perhaps, it must also have some kind of mission. For example, let you not be alone or sink in that difficult period of life. For example, in a few years, warm your heart.

Experience what it brings to you and find the meaning of life.